You Can Use Lists to Attract Better Partners
You Can Use Lists to Attract Better Partners
It's an effective way to focus on what you want
Do you attract such a small number of lovers that it’s embarrassing?
And do the ones you do manage to attract never come back for more? The fact is, even if you think you’re stellar in bed, you might be driving away potential mates.
If one key thing is missing or done without care, your lovers may feel neglected. It may stop you from attracting others in the first place.
Here are some ways to use a list to help you improve your sex life and attract a long-term partner.
Lists Are Powerful Tools
Yes, you can make a list of your sex life. It can be a pro/con list or a list of things you would like to change. Be creative.
A list allows you to organize your thoughts in one place. Writing things down makes your ideas more concrete. When you look at them with fresh eyes, you might find yourself being more honest with yourself.
Discover What You Want
Start by listing things you would like to achieve in a long-term relationship and rank them. If marriage and a family are important to you, jot that down. If you want a short-term relationship, that’s fine as well. If you are clear about what you want, you won’t send out confusing signals.
It’s possible to get what you want in a relationship. Write down everything you imagine about your future partner. If you can see every detail in your mind, you will attract them.
Lists Remind You of What You Don’t Want
I used to attract angry partners. There was one person who couldn’t have a conversation without debating the facts. When I found myself in another argument about something irrelevant I realized I didn’t want to live like that.
I knew I didn’t have to choose a relationship full of conflict.
Lists Help You Create Better Relationships
A list is easy to create and simple to understand. It’s a great tool for reflection. If you continue with a list-making habit, you will find certain themes will start to appear.
Your choices will change and so will your sex life.
Learn to Listen
Listening to another person is a great way to show you care. It’s important to listen without judgment. The things you judge about someone else often reveal something about yourself.
Use a List to Celebrate.
Jotting down small details will help you find ways to create personal moments. You’ll find yourself sharing little inside jokes with your partner. Learn what is special to them. Make a note of special dates or events and celebrate them.
When you celebrate small wins, you’re letting them know you care.
Turn your dreams into reality today.
This might come off as mercenary or crass - using a list to attract a partner! But we use lists to debate the pros and cons of many things in our lives. Lists have always been an effective tool for me, so I figured - why not try it here?
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