Bindatway For A Long Time
The dynamics of change
It’s Tree Langdon from Medium and Linked In.
As promised, here’s A New Word, An Idea, and A Question.
A New Word
This is where I share a word that really should exist, one that should be in the dictionary.
Bindatway
Definition of Bindatway:
: A word used by people that are resistant to change.
: A place where everything stays the same. It’s a bit like groundhog day.
// Rather than accept the possibility of new norms, the person says “it’s always bindatway. I ain't changing now.”
An Idea
Have you ever decided to make changes in your life and found that it was harder than you thought? Have you tried time and time again to make a change, only to give up?
Real change in how you’re functioning and how you’re engaging with the world becomes possible if you persist.
Your superpower of choice is the thing that can catapult you into the space of possibility where real change — not just rearranging the furniture –but real change that can occur in how you are functioning and how you are engaging with the world.
This becomes your new reality.
Our instant gratification mindset asks for instant change.
It’s important to be patient with yourself.
Just keep going. You don’t know when that moment of change will happen, but if you keep going, you will get there.
Change is cumulative over time.
We are used to our behavior patterns. We can choose to continue a pattern, but while we’re doing that we can begin to think about change.
It’s possible to continue to do one thing while you’re exploring different possibilities. By exploring possibilities, you move closer to the moment of change.
Change happens when you make a choice.
Most people don’t go from one process to another without going through the exploration of the new process. It takes time and you need to be patient with yourself while you work through the possibilities.
Once you’re ready, and you make the choice, a change occurs.
Change can happen in an instant. But sometimes it’s not visible right away.
When you’re trying to change how you function in the world, it takes a while for you to untangle yourself from the reasons why you function that way.
Your compensation strategy needs untangling. It takes a while to let go.
Letting go is no longer what we have been choosing.
You may think you’ve been trying and trying and nothing is changing, but take heart. Change is happening.
You just aren’t able to see it yet. You are getting there.
Keep going. You’ll be happy that you did.
A Question
What would you most like to change about how you are being in the world today?
If you were to begin to change, what’s your first step?
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I have an answer for this. A couple months ago I decided to try meditation. I thought it was foo-foo but heard from several people that it's life-changing. So I began with 10 minutes a day using the Calm app.
You don't really notice change at all...until you do. It's actually kind of profound.